However, when working alone, facing an evening at home alone, the chances are that all this wonderful loving energy may well get frittered away unexpressed. So I would like to learn how to harness this energy and express it in creative ways for the good of others and the satisfaction of my own eager heart.
In some ways, writing this blog allows me to share my enthusiasms and passions- or at least lets me think that I am sharing. ( Anyone out there? Please comment if you have read this far!! ;) )
Obsessing..
Unfortunately,
all too often this sort of excited energy can make someone obsessive
or perhaps even possessive…. I think we are both conditioned and -possibly
instinctively- inclined to the idea that the best way to express love is through
physical contact:-
a kiss or a hug for starters…
When someone makes you feel
energised, happy and glad to be alive, don’t you just want to kiss them?
Does this mushroom into a desire to just merge with them, to soak up and
exchange all those wonderful feelings and make something amazing with that
fused energy?
Of course, at least half the
readership are now thinking about the usual, much promulgated way to consummate
and express physical passions..
But I am searching for something much
more powerful than that;
Possessing
Have
you ever been in the same room as someone you felt strongly attracted to? Or
have you ever been somewhat fixated on trying to catch the eye of someone you
yearn to impress? Have you ever spent most of an occasion in a “background
brain state” longing to dance with or speak to or otherwise be in closer contact with
the object of your affection/desire?
That is a sort of possessive impulse,
which can leave you feeling anxious and drained. Even if the person you are
drawn to spends some time with you, it is likely that you will wind up the
occasion feeling unsettled, longing for more and somewhat disengaged from what
could have been a great opportunity for more general social bonding, or other
worthwhile endeavours.
From: The 6 annoying dating habits of
middle eastern men
So what’s the alternative? What is
the escape route from this tendency to obsess and possess?
Caring
Give yourself some time to fill-up
with the feeling of universal unconditional love.
It only takes a few moments.
Lock yourself in a nearby public convenience if you must! Just place your hands
on your heart and imagine the light of pure love filling your whole being.
Then go out into the world and read the
emotions on people’s faces- not just the surface emotions- but the deeper ones
you can glimpse in their eyes and gestures.
Send them love with your thoughts.
Wish healing of their wounds. If you are actually physically alone, simply
think about the people you know and one by one imagine good things happening to
them.
Remember to include yourself in all
this well-wishing! Imagine your brain filling up with so many good thoughts and
ideas that the clawing, self depricating, destructive ones are simply squashed out.
Creating
And write! Or be otherwise creative
when you can. At a party you might sing or dance. When you dance allow yourself
to escape into the music. Close your eyes and let the music conjure up visions
of other worlds, do what ever moves come to you consciously to get started.
Never fear repeating the same movement- work with it until you naturally flow
in another. Your imagination and the music will guide you if you let them.
It’s the same with writing or drawing
I find. Start with doodle or a phrase and find the crevice/the odd word that
sparks the next phrase or scribble. Sometimes when I draw, it feels like I am
just constantly trying to improve or amend the first doodle and then all of a
sudden some form magically appears and I start to get more ideas.
The same can apply to any creative
act be it cookery or flower arranging or even cleaning the house I suppose! (I
still have to find a way to get that particular channel of creativity juicing
for me! :) )
The point is that the lonely high
anxiety of love can fuel something wonderful, if correctly utilised. Often the
feeling of deep loneliness and unfulfilled desires is the keening of our inner
muse. Even if poetic endeavours don’t exterminate depression, they may make the
depression seem more useful and that can be surprisingly satisfying.
Synergising
But
what if the love you feel in your heart is all good and all wonderful and all
magical and you just want to share it to make the world a better place? Then
rejoice and make haste. Usually this elated feeling comes after an energising experience –
maybe even just a conversation that sets our brains alight. So be alert to the
ideas that surface- the good ones or potentially good ones of course!
Maybe the person or event that
enraptured you, piqued your interest in a book, or a place or a cause.. whatever captivated you at the time that the loving energy swelled within you-
pursue that lead. There will probably be more than one thing buzzing in your
head.
Some may seem to bring you to dead
ends or just dull ends and others may seem to lose their lustre. But persist
with all that have even remotely promising potential, for as long as you can. It will
sustain the good feeling and help you on your journey through life.
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| "Somewhere over the rainbow" from The Microsoft clip-art gallery. |
Above all, share your discoveries and
passions with the people you feel drawn to and connect with those special
people. Don’t just assume that they don’t need you and that you’ll both be fine
without each other.
Keep
Seeking..
I have only ever felt that magical
sparkle of interest with a handful of people and all too often I just let it be
or let it pass by. The older I get, the more I regret not trying to at least
befriend those rare people my soul seemed to resonate with. Kindred spirits are
hard to find but usually not that hard to recognise if you are alert to the
signs.
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| Get Excited for the Educational Journey Ahead. |
You
know how certain people seem to magnetically attract your interest or arouse
your curiosity? Some of the people for whom I had this sort of curiosity, told
me that they thought we knew each other in a past life. I am not sue about that, but that is the sort of feeling I am talking about! For myself, I have often
felt that we are drawn to such people because our instincts realise we could
exchange valuable life-lessons with these attractive people.
Perhaps it works like the pheromonal
cues that bring well-matched geno-types together for mating. Except that in
this case, our subconscious minds are detecting people who possess qualities
and skills we need to master- things like grace of movement, confidence, joy,
sensitivity etc.
For ultimately, I believe that Love is
our best and most wonderful teacher. Everytime you feel it, prepare to learn
something; get curious and excited for the educational adventure ahead.
Stoke the love and it will kindle an
eternal flame of wonder. There is always more to learn and there is always room
for love to grow and dance.
